Dear Feelings Doctor: I have a wonderful girlfriend who has two high school children. I have raised my own family, and now all I want is to have fun. I really do enjoy being around my girl, but her kids I am not down with. What should I do to move things along?
— Fun Guy in Santa Barbara
Dear Fun Guy: I hear you say you want to enjoy your life and "just have fun" with your girl. Everyone should celebrate each day that they have above ground in a big way! So, you should find someone without children or a woman whose children are already out of the house.
Really, would you want a woman who would choose you over her kids? Honestly? And if you truly have no time or desire to engage them, they already know it. Kids from a divided family don’t need any more reasons to feel bad about what’s going on in their lives. Sounds like you’re the one who needs to move along.
Dear Feelings Doctor: Thank you so much for your upbeat and cheerful attitude with your column. It is such a welcomed treat to my week. Keep the messages and guidance coming. I just love it.
— Karen in Santa Barbara
Dear Karen: Thank you for reading and enjoying the column. Share it with your friends, family, co-workers and even strangers! It’s all about communicating; and the more we all can do it, the easier our day, our week and our lives will become. Less stress, more bless.
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Imagine This ...
Happiness is a butterfly
which when pursued,
is just beyond your grasp …
but if you sit down quietly,
may alight upon you.
— Nathaniel Hawthorne