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David Harsanyi: Time for a Divorce from Gay Marriage

It's time we let private relationships stay, well, private

In the 1500s, a pestering theologian instituted something called the Marriage Ordinance in Geneva, which made “state registration and church consecration” a dual requirement of matrimony.

David Harsanyi
David Harsanyi

We have yet to get over this mistake. But isn’t it about time we freed marriage from the state?

Imagine if government had no interest in the definition of marriage. Individuals could commit to each other, head to the local priest or rabbi or shaman — or no one at all — and enter into contractual agreements, call their blissful union whatever they felt it should be called and go about the business of their lives.

I certainly don’t believe that gay marriage will trigger societal instability or undermine traditional marriage — we already have that covered — but mostly I believe your private relationships are none of my business. And without any government role in the institution, it wouldn’t be the business of the Ninth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, either.

As the debate stands now, we have two activist groups trying to force their own ethical construction of marriage on the rest of us. And to enforce it, they have been using the power of the state — one via majority rule and the other using the judiciary (subject to change with the vagaries of public opinion).

If marriage were freed from the state, folks at The New York Times editorial board could avoid having to make claims that gay “marriage is a constitutional right.” (Apparently, anything can be a constitutional right at The Gray Lady, as long as it’s not mentioned in the Second, Fifth or 10th amendments.)

Even new Supreme Court Justice Elena Kagan recently wrote that “there is no federal constitutional right to same-sex marriage.” It might be fair and it might be the decent thing to do, but a constitutional “right”?

If marriage were a private concern, U.S. District Chief Judge Vaughn Walker would not have ruled that California’s Proposition 8 violated the Constitution’s guarantees of equal protection and due process, because Proposition 8 would not have existed.

Walker never would have to sit in judgment of Americans and claim that “moral disapproval alone” was behind this plot to define marriage as a union between one man and one woman. Moral disapproval alone?

As best as I can tell, support for gay marriage is tepid. A recent CBS poll shows that 42 percent of Americans support marriage rights for gays and lesbians, though no state has been able to pass a referendum to legalize same-sex marriage.

Does that mean that about half of voters — and all 7 million Californians who voted for Proposition 8 — have no logical or legal reason for believing that marriage should be between a man and a woman other than bigotry? Is President Barack Obama, who David Axelrod says opposes same-sex marriage (also subject to change with the vagaries of public opinion, no doubt) a homophobe?

In my world, the answer is: Who cares? Is there any other personal relationship that is defined by government? Other than in legal terms, of course, this one isn’t either.

Yet we have decided that a majority on the Supreme Court or, perhaps, a majority of the voters in your state or, even worse, a majority of the legislators in your state have the power to define what is often the most intimate bond of your life.

In our Utopian vision, no group is empowered to dictate what marriage should mean to another. And one of the great perks would be the end of this debate.

David Harsanyi is a columnist at The Denver Post and the author of Nanny State. Click here for more information, or click here to contact him.

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