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John Daly: How Do You Make Others Feel?

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou

So, how do you make others feel? Do you ask them rude, none-of-their business questions? Do you ignore them when they are speaking to you? Do you criticize their appearance or behavior? 


Do you smile at them, repeat back what they’ve said to you, help them when they need it, and focus on the positives instead of the negatives?

If you do the latter, then you are a considerate person who makes others feel really good about themselves when they are around you.

5 Ways to Make Others Around You Feel Great

Dale Partridge of The Daily Positive offers five ways to make the people around you feel great. You might say he is preaching etiquette. I say he’s being considerate of others.

» Put Your Stuff Away — Don’t ever have your phone or computer out while in a conversation.

» Use a Person’s Name in Conversation — This requires you remember it when they tell you.

» Ask Them to Teach you Something — Everyone has something to offer, let them shine.

» Be Authentically Interested — Lean in, keep eye contact, and listen way more than you talk.

» Shine the Spotlight on Them — In group settings, share someone’s talent, a good story about them, or what you like about them.

It’s fairly basic behavior, but you would be amazed at how many people don’t consider how they make others feel around them. Think about it.

Click here for more information about Dale Partridge.

More Information, on Video

Words of wisdom from the great Brian Tracy.

(Brian Tracy video)

John Daly is the founder and president of The Key Class, the go-to guide for job search success. Click here to learn more about The Key Class, get more information on Thursday night classes in Santa Barbara, or to get his book. Connect with The Key Class on Facebook. Follow John Daly on Twitter: @johndalyjrClick here for previous columns. The opinions expressed are his own.

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