Dear Annie: I am a U.S. Postal Service mail carrier. My husband was sent home six weeks ago, with pay, while I head out every morning to the possibility of contracting COVID-19.
I’ve been angry and resentful, and scared. It was most acute about two weeks ago, and, after some tears and talks, I’ve calmed down somewhat. I just keep looking ahead and cannot wait for this to end.
— Husband at Home
Dear Husband at Home: Your fear and anger are very understandable. And yet you have been going out there and delivering our mail anyway. That is called courage.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather, it is having fear and doing it anyway. You are a hero and we thank you very much for your service to humanity.
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Dear Annie: Regarding your April 29 column, “Are You Modeling Jealousy or Gratitude?,” I wanted to inform the grandfather who was resentful about waiting in lines at the amusement park that the Fastpass is not just for those who are wealthy and can afford to pay for the pass. It is also for children with disabilities so they do not have to wait in lines.
There can also be invisible disabilities — ADD and ADHD and brain injuries — that make waiting in line a difficult thing for children to do.
To enhance their experience at the park, or, in some cases, even make it possible to go to the park and have them be able to enjoy the outing, families can sign up in advance for the pass to avoid the lines.
I would never have known this, but my grandson is one of the children who needs this assistance and would not have been able to tolerate the line otherwise.
Your answer was spot on, but there can be more than meets the eye as a reason for “cutting the line”! Thinking outside the box is another great skill to instill in your children and grandchildren, as well as tolerance for those less fortunate.
— Thinking Outside the Box
Dear Thinking Outside the Box: Thank you for your letter. It highlights a very important lesson. We can’t judge a book by its cover. There could be so much more going on.
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Dear Annie: I used to have uncontrolled underarm odor for decades, no matter what I did. I finally asked my doctor. His advice: Use tea tree oil (over the counter at drugstores). Use about 10 drops in an ounce of water on a cotton ball to wipe the underarms and let it dry. Later, use antibacterial soap and deodorant. I have had no odor for over two years.
— Not Stinky Anymore
Dear Not Stinky Anymore: Thank you for sharing your suggestion. Tea tree oil is completely natural so it has a low chance of side effects.
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— A native Californian, Annie Lane writes her Dear Annie advice columns from her home outside New York City, where she lives with her husband, two kids and two dogs. Her debut book, Ask Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie, features favorite columns on love, friendship, family and etiquette. Email your Dear Annie questions to email@example.com. Click here to read previous columns. The opinions expressed are her own.