When we got the news about my wife’s dread disease and the fact that I would be her lifelong caregiver (10 years and counting), I admit it took me a while to swallow that pill.

Thoughts went through my head like, “Lord, wait a minute. I never checked that box when I blithely declared, ‘I do’ 36 years ago”; “This isn’t fair!”; “But what about me?” etc.

One caregiver friend who had been taking care of her Parkinson’s disease-stricken husband for many years blurted out once, “It feels like I’m stuck, with no honorable way out.”

Ouch! Millions in the caregiving community could silently be thinking the same things.

But one could ask, is there a bigger picture here? Perhaps something I’m missing? Perhaps even an opportunity in disguise?

Refining gold takes heat — lots of it.

As 1 Peter 1:6-8 explains, “In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which perishes though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ; and though you have not seen Him, you love Him, and though you do not see Him now, but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory …”

So much packed into those verses: Rejoicing, not just after trials are over, but in the midst of trials.

Distressed, yet believing there is a divine purpose known only to those in the spiritual realms beyond.

And all the while serving a Person (Jesus) we have never actually seen and yet deeply love Him to the point of glad self-sacrifice.

Talk about a higher purpose!

Gold refining serves as a great illustration of how God works to repurpose us away from the world and toward the heavenlies. It’s not always pretty but very effective.

So how does a goldsmith purify gold? The highest level of refinement is reached with fire in a crucible.

As the impurities rise to the surface of the molten gold, the dross is skimmed off in successive waves until the gold is pure.

How does the goldsmith know when it’s ready? By peering down onto the molten surface and viewing his visage like a mirror.

If there are no visual distortions, mission accomplished. The goldsmith’s image has been perfectly reproduced in the face of the gold. Sound familiar?

According to 2 Corinthians 3:18, “But we all, with unveiled faces, looking as in a mirror at the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as from the Lord, the Spirit.”

And Romans 8:29: “For those whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son …”

Likewise, as our Divine Goldsmith looks down into the “gold” of our Spirit-indwelt souls, He sees the image of His Son looking back.

No distortions due to sin, no smudges from selfish ambition, but cleansed in the fire of trials — reflecting glory back to God.

If the gold could talk, do you think it would say that it enjoys going through the refining process? Does it like being heated up and having parts violently ripped off?

Yet it must be done to yield a perfect outcome. It’s the same with you and me.

So why can’t we see what God is doing?

Simply put, it’s above our pay grade. Does the gold need to “know” what the goldsmith has planned? Does the clay need to know what the potter is forming? Our job is to remain in His hands and patiently endure the fire.

Remember, God knows what we’re capable of; He won’t go too far and destroy us, as explained in 1 Corinthians 10:13: “No temptation has overtaken you except something common to mankind; and God is faithful, so He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”

Incidentally, you wouldn’t want to know God’s grand plan — as the line from the movie, A Few Good Men, goes, “You can’t handle the truth!”

And don’t worry, as written in 1 Corinthians 13:12, someday we’ll meet our loving Divine Goldsmith and He’ll let us in on all His trade secrets:

“For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully, just as I also have been fully known.”

How About You?

So next time you hear the thundering hooves of a trial coming, sometimes it’s God speaking something important into our lives with His divine megaphone.

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