Question from Tamara
Why do boys like girls with big boobs?
Weezy
Not all guys do. Everyone is different.
However, if you delve deeply into the answer to this question you will find biological explanations as to why many guys are attracted to larger breasts. Humans are programmed to seek a mate who will be a great provider or bear healthy children. A woman with wide hips and large breasts would be perceived, subconsciously, to be excellent at child bearing, nursing and raising.
Of course, when a male is looking at large breasts he is not thinking about babies. He’s just hard wired to be attracted to that woman.
Conversely, if women are predisposed to be attracted to a strong male who will hunt and kill food and build a nice home, then this explains why some women are attracted to beefy muscles and a six-pack.
We also know that while some girls do think that’s pretty hot, other females may feel that a guy who spends too much time in the gym has probably never read a book. We may be more drawn to a man with a wonderful mind and heart. The same variances are true for men as applied to their taste in women.
Yes, certain elements of male and female anatomy may catch someone’s eye. We are only human. But it’s a lot like Christmas lights. Sure, they twinkle but once you walk through the door, it’s the house that you need and love.
Here is more insight from Stuff Mom Never Told You:
(Stuff Mom Never Told You – HowStuffWorks video)
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Question from Mariah
So, I’m a 14 year old girl. This July, my parents went on vacation alone for 10 days and I did something dumb and horrible. I was hearing stories about my slightly older friends (15 years) going to parties and getting drunk, and I wanted to know what it was like so while my parents were away I raided their liquor cabinet and I got drunk and stuff.
I just wanted to try alcohol once but I ended up having it for four consecutive days till my parents came back. On a family vacation, I started drinking even more because my parents were always out at night, and my dad left all his drinks in the apartment and I was alone with my younger siblings who were fast asleep.
Also, we’re Muslims so it’s forbidden to drink, but we aren’t very religious.
My grandmother smokes and she comes over often. She left an entire carton of cigarettes at my house so, like, In December, my friends were over and they saw the ciggs and they tried it and made me try it, too. I didn’t even say no, and, like, since then I’ve been smoking. I don’t know why I’ve become so horrible.
Please help me. I don’t know, I just can’t stop.
Weezy
I don’t mean to alarm you but you are an alcoholic. The earlier you start drinking and the more you tend to drink alone, the greater the problem you have with alcohol. It sounds like your family is giving you mixed messages by saying that drinking is against your religion and yet keeping alcohol in the house. Your relationship with your religion and your God is something that you will have to reconcile AFTER you address your addiction.
Your health comes first. There are those who find that religion can help people remain sober and committed to sobriety, but you are a young child with an addiction and so, first and foremost, you need professional help.
The ease with which you picked up both drinking and smoking tells me that you have kind of given up. It’s sort of a YOLO attitude that screams, “I DON’T EVEN CARE ANYMORE!” You do need to care. This is your body and your life. Smoking and drinking will rob you of everything.
The reasons that you started smoking and drinking need to be addressed, but, first, now that you are in pretty deep, your addictions need to be addressed. You have got layers and layers of issues that must be peeled back.
Please tell your parents that you need to see a therapist or go see your guidance counselor at school. You need to be here on earth. There is a purpose for your life and it’s your job to find it. Get sober and then go and do that.
This guy curses too much but me makes some excellent points:
(OnisionSpeaks video)
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Joshua
Weezy, I’m 20, I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. I feel lost, I don’t know what I want and I feel like I still act like an irresponsible 16-year-old teenager. Nobody really cares about me other than my parents. I don’t really have any friends because I fear the things that people do or say behind my back.
Weezy
Everyone is nervous about what others think. However, allowing anyone to stop you from being your best self is giving them power they do not deserve and have not requested. For the most part people want others to succeed.
Sure, there are petty jealousies and there is often a sense of completion in our nature, but we all instinctively know that if the shop on the corner does not do well then there will be no shop on the corner and we all really enjoy the shop on that corner.
When your mom is happy she’ll say something that makes you laugh. Happiness and prosperity are contagious. We all do well when we all do well. If people are talking behind your back, you have no control over that. You have control ONLY over what you decide to do with your life. If you would like others to care about you then care about them. If you want a friend, be a friend.
Go make a plan. It does not need to be a lifetime plan. Being 20 can be terrifying. You can feel like everyone is now expecting you to have it all figured out. We are not. We just want you to have a general idea of what the next year will hold for you.
Enroll in classes at your community college. Join a club. Volunteer. Take part. Be someone who is supportive of others. Put effort, energy and love into what you do. Smile at five people today. Mean it. You may be a late bloomer but you will bloom.
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— Louise Palanker is a co-founder of Premiere Radio Networks, the author of a semi-autobiographical coming-of-age novel called Journals, a comedian, a filmmaker (click here to view her documentary, Family Band: The Cowsills Story), a teacher and a mentor. She has a teen social network/IOS app and weekly video podcast called Journals Network, built around a philosophy of cyber kindness. She also teaches a free stand-up comedy class for teens at the Jewish Federation of Greater Santa Barbara. Click here to read previous columns. The opinions expressed are her own.