Chaucer’s Books will host New York Times bestselling local authors Vanessa and Xander Marin for a book talk and signing, 6 p.m. Thursday, April 6 at 3321 State St., Santa Barbara.
The Marins are the authors of “Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.” The big talks the Marins say every couple should have include:
- Acknowledgement: a.k.a. “Sex is a thing, and we have it.”
- Connection: a.k.a. “What do we need to feel connected to each other?”
- Desire: a.k.a. “What do we each need to get turned on?”
- Pleasure: a.k.a. “What do we each need to feel good?”
- Exploration: a.k.a. “What should we try next?”
With storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples’ closed bedroom doors, the Marins share advice they say has already helped hundreds of thousands.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She has bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology.
She has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured in major publications including Oprah Daily, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Real Simple.
Xander Marin, who left a career in tech to work with his wife on the book, said he is proof that you don’t need a graduate degree or a license to have good communication skills; you just need to have a willingness and an open mind.